It’s an amazing feeling to adjust yourself to one person you might love / like’s favorite things. And the best is when you do it naturally rather than making a conscious effort. It’s like getting it in your system. Once you love somebody, the favorite things of the love become a part of your system and if the luv just grows a time comes when your choice relegates to the background. That’s what happens when you just start liking a person. You not only think entire day about her but also try to gauge how the life would seem in the future. You try and create a blueprint of the life together. And that’s just wonderful. There are some things you know they would be very good cos you have hit a comfort zone there. There would be few things which would need some adjustment, the mid way would need to be found out. And those things can be talked out.
Living life together is an amazing feeling. You get to know the other person. She is different from you. She has different living habits, eating habits and so forth. Adjustments beckon here. And why not ? For gaining something, if you need to shed off something which could be unpleasant, then why not? I feel life should not be a battle of egos and brownie points scored in day to day lives. Rather it should be a running score card on how much did you evolve in a single day and how much did your relationship evolve? Of course in progressive direction. How much did your understanding develop than the previous day. I always feel that the incoming day should be the peak of your relationship in terms of love and warmth. That is, the love should just grow. And if that means some adjustments then why not. Again that’s a bone of contention and a potential ego issue. But then if you are committed to the relationship and are mature enough to ignore the smaller irritations, then there is no reason why the life cannot be lived in exactly a way you would like to. If you are together, trust me you would love to face tough times, cos you know there is something to fall back on. There is somebody to hold you if you fall. Even if she might not be able to hold you, she would help you get up and heal you. That’s the power of togetherness.
Doing those things together like going for morning n evening walk together, helping in dinner, eating together, watching TV together, going out for shopping. All that’s very surreal. I can’t wait to get to that phase of my life now. Coming down from the phase of life when I just detested the relationships to this phase has been a tremendous journey, an enduring path I went on. It wasn’t easy, but it wasn’t difficult either. Tough it was, but then optimism and a hope kept me going. A thought process that said, dude don’t worry, the tomorrow won’t be as dark as today or yesterday, it certainly would be brighter. And that’s what kept me going. I put aside all the disappointments, failures, snubs, dumping, everything and kept moving. With the flow and against the flow. Evolved, succeeded, failed, but never gave up trying. Different approaches, different theories and different mindset got me out of the hoax and got me here. Here when I stand ready for the next level of my life. The next level of Razz-mat-azz.